
The Bisexual : Two Women on the Edge, the Deconstruction and Reconstruction of Desire Hidden Behind Labels
We often confine ourselves within the framework of “self” as defined by others. Especially within identity communities built through solid solidarity and struggle, an individual’s fluid desire is sometimes dismissed as betrayal or apostasy.
Leaving behind ten years of comfort and the arms of a most familiar lover, the narrative of a woman confronting an unfamiliar version of herself is not merely the end of a romance; it offers a chilling insight into existential solitude.
[The Bisexual] Production Information
| Category | Content |
| Title | The Bisexual |
| Director | Desiree Akhavan |
| Cast | Desiree Akhavan (Leila) / Maxine Peake (Sadie) |
| Year/Country | 2018 / 🇬🇧 UK & 🇺🇸 USA |
💭 The Moment 10 Years of Inertia Collapses: The Rupture of Identity Facing Leila and Sadie
While ten years can solidify a relationship, that very solidity can sometimes become a prison that suffocates the individual. In The Bisexual, the breakup between Leila and Sadie is not a mere exhaustion of emotion, but a seismic shift that twists the very trajectory of their lives.
As co-founders of a startup who perfectly shared both their careers and private lives, Sadie’s proposal becomes the detonator that shatters their peace. The terror Leila feels at Sadie’s desire for stability and settlement suggests that other long-suppressed cravings beneath her firm identity as a ‘lesbian’ are beginning to burst forth.
The core of The Bisexual interpretation lies in the bewilderment of an individual pushed outside this ‘safe fence.’ 🌈 The process of Leila—once revered as a ‘hardcore lesbian’ within the queer community—realizing her bisexual orientation is as clumsy and precarious as a mid-life puberty.
The shift in Leila’s relationship/orientation shakes not only her longtime partner Sadie but the entire social network surrounding her.
💔 Internal Exclusivity of the Queer Community and the Sociological Solitude of the ‘Liminal’ Leila
The sharpest insight of this drama lies in the ‘internal’ gaze rather than the external one. What we witness as we approach The Bisexual ending is the sorrowful reality that even a queer community claiming to respect diversity views ‘bisexuality’ through the lens of a restless wanderer or a traitor.
The conversations among Sadie’s friends regarding Leila’s change starkly expose the hierarchies and prejudices that exist even within the LGBTQ+ community.
✨ Leila now experiences total isolation, viewed as an ‘oddity’ by heterosexuals and an ‘unreliable apostate’ by lesbians. This setting resonates with the ‘loss of belonging’ experienced by modern women.
In a social system where one feels secure only by attaching a specific label, Leila’s struggle to honestly face her desires without belonging to either side is almost sublime. Her trial and error as she falters through the unfamiliar dating protocols of men transcends simple comedy; it is closer to a disruptive innovation that shatters the fixed self.
🍼 A Sorrowful Liberation into Separate Orbits: The Method of Growth Chosen by Sadie and Leila
In the latter half of the drama, the contrast between Sadie preparing for pregnancy and Leila still experimenting with herself amidst confusion clearly illustrates the point of no return for the relationship.
⭐ “I can’t imagine a future without you, but the present with you erases me.” This famous line is the tragic truth piercing through their relationship.
Sadie seeks to prove her existence through a stable home, while Leila seeks her true self by rejecting that very stability. Their separation is not born of malice, but is a mature and painful process of acknowledging that their speeds and directions of growth have diverged.
Ultimately, The Bisexual poses a question to us: What desire remains purely yours when the countless labels defining you are stripped away?
The image of Leila standing alone in the cold London air is a portrait of a woman who has found the courage to be truly solitary, liberated from the gaze of others. 💭 The work offers the paradoxical consolation that the end of a relationship can be the beginning of the self.
✨ Violet’s Curation: Other Female Narratives to Awaken Your Inner Self
- The Fosters: An in-depth drama dealing with the clash of identity and bond within the fence of a family.
- I Love Dick: A masterpiece that provocatively depicts the process of a woman’s suppressed desire manifesting through art and obsession.
Have you ever experienced choosing a completely different path by breaking the familiar framework that once defined you? Please share your stories about that unfamiliar freedom found when prioritizing your true desires over the gaze of others.


